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Many families understand that long-term chronic care is often the best option for an elderly family member who needs care 24 hours a day. When seeking a long-term care facility, families need to ask the right questions to determine whether the residence is the best fit for their loved one. Here are some things every family should be thinking about when it comes to long-term care:
It’s important that the facility is able to meet your loved ones’ needs. Will your relative need access to a dentist? Perhaps he or she will need to see a physical therapist on a regular basis. Is there a full time physician on staff?
Visit the facility more than once and be sure to bring your loved one, the prospective resident. After all, this will be his or her new home. Do not rush the visits. Take the necessary time to talk with staff and residents. Have your questions prepared ahead of time and make sure you get answers to all of your questions. Find out if a Family Support group is offered. You may find that this will be helpful to you after your loved one has moved into the facility.
What is the outside space like? It may not be important in the middle of winter, but come spring and summer time you’ll want to know that you can enjoy visiting outdoors. Are there seating areas where you can have a picnic? If there are grandchildren, this will be a great place for them to visit with their grandparent.
Make arrangements to speak with the activities director. More and more nursing homes are offering activities and groups tailored to meet the interests of the residents. What specific interests does your loved one have? Will the facility be able to accommodate his or her interests? Does the facility offer religious support and services? Do residents have food choices at meal times?
Be sure to spend time talking with the social worker. Find out what hours the social worker is available. You want to know that he or she will be there for you if there’s something you need in the future.
Remember, it’s a good sign when a nursing home makes you and your loved one feel comfortable right from the start! That includes feeling comfortable when asking the questions that are important to you.
For more information and advice from Hebrew SeniorLife experts on choosing long-term care, download our free Long-Term Care Planning Guide.